There are certain things in life that if we focus too much on, will steal happiness away from us. These are negative behaviours, people and habits. If we can learn to watch out for these and to stop allowing them to have an effect on our lives, we can vastly increase our overall happiness.
Below are 6 things that are stealing your happiness. Take a look through and make sure they’re not a focus of your life.
Paying for Happiness
Sure their can be temporary highs when we make purchases or collect things, but that’s all they are – temporary. True happiness comes from within and from the love and support of the people around you. A person needs very little to be happy, it is a state that is found inside and can not be attained externally.
Striving to fill your life with fancy and expensive possessions often leaves a person feeling worse and struggling with a pile of debt. It’s like trying to quench your thirst with soda, it just makes you thirstier.
Why spend time with people who make you feel worse? There’s enough unavoidable negativity in the world without choosing to surround yourself with it. Be close with people that understand you and love you for who you are. People who are optimistic, positive and love life as much as you do. This will make a huge difference to your own outlook on life.
Negative people sap the happiness from you, and even most of your energy. They feed off this emotion and you don’t need this in your life. It’s ok to set away from relationships that are doing you more harm than good.
Apologising for Being You
There is nothing wrong with being who you are and as long as you treat others with compassion and understanding, you have nothing to apologise for.
If you want to do something that goes against the grain then do it. If you’re not hurting anyone and people are shocked that you’re daring to step off the beaten path, then that’s their problem, not yours!
Trying to Go Back
You can’t go back, as much as you may want to. You may have deep regrets about something, or miss the way things once were but you can never go back to live in that moment or change things that happened. Realising this lets the past stop holding you back from your future and turning regrets into lessons.
Remember life is all about learning, no one gets through it without making mistakes. The important thing to take from it is the experience and to let it teach you not to repeat those same mistakes again.
Wishing Someone Returned Your Feelings
Though we have control over a lot in our lives, it is important to remember that we cannot control someone else actions an emotions.
You cannot change the way someone feels and you cannot make someone love you. When you feel as though you love someone with all that you are but it’s not reciprocated, then it is time to move on, accept that persons feelings and to understand you are worth more than unreciprocated love.
You deserve someone that loves you with their entire being as well.
Staying in One Place
Our souls are meant to evolve and it’s harder to do that when we remain in the one place, in the comfort of our own cultures and traditions, only hearing tales of the way others live but never truly experiencing that for your self.
To truly expand your consciousness and allow your soul to grow, you need to really immerse yourself in other cultures and experience the breathtaking magnificence of other places with your own eyes. Life isn’t meant to be lived from behind a screen, it is meant to be experienced in person.
The highs and the lows, the ups and the downs, we need to feel and witness everything first hand if we really want our complete selves to grow.