A lot of us have bad habits that stop us growing and developing to the height it requires to live a successful life. The trick is to identify these bad habits and stop them now, so we enhance our chances dramatically, of living a full healthy and happy life.
Below are 5 things that are holding you back and are pretty common amongst people. The majority will never change these, however if you’re focussed on a happy life, you’ll make sure you don’t do any of these things.
Trying to Control Everything
Trying to control everything and everyone is only going to hold you back. It can’t be done and by trying to do so, you’re just wasting time.
Realising that the only thing you can realistically control is you own actions is a major step along the path to a happy life. For everything else, careful planning and trusting your instincts can go a long way to getting you to where you want to go.
But remember no matter how much planning you do or believe something is right, sometimes things just go in the opposite direction. Accept this and react quickly. This is a major element of happiness.
Honestly, how much does it bother you when you’re stuck with someone who constantly seems to be complaining? It saps the positivity out of you as well right?
Don’t be that person.
Complaining about something is just noise. Nothing ever changes unless you take positive action to make those changes. People find it easier to complain about something than put in the effort to try and change it. That’s because it’s easier, but it doesn’t lead to anything changing.
In fact, some of the biggest stories have come from people creating a solution to something others are complaining about.
Do you want to be the one complaining, or the one solving the problem?
Blaming others for the things that go wrong in your life is simply making excuses.
Now this isn’t the same as a person being a victim to someone who has gone out of their way to inflict physical or emotional damage. A person is fully entitled to feel wrong here and some of the most successful people have changed this adversity into strengths.
What I mean by blaming others is smaller instances which, if you notice, people tend to do quite often.
- Why wasn’t that report done on time? – Such a person didn’t get the figures over to me.
- Why have you dropped your fitness goals? – My work was taking too much of my time.
- Why haven’t you been promoted? – Such a person kissed up way more than I did and that’s stopped me advancing.
These are excuses and they’re not fooling anyone, perhaps only yourself. If you can change your sense of personal responsibility then you will achieve a lot more.
Criticizing others is similar to blaming others. If you don’t like the way someone does something, do it differently or don’t do it at all.
It wastes a lot of time and energy critiquing someone, especially when you go to the pains of letting everyone know about it.
Keep an open mind, appreciate that others do things differently and some people will look at you and think the way you’re doing things is crazy as well.
Put your energy into improving yourself and the things you are trying to create.
This is basically just massaging your ego and lets be honest, nobody likes a show off. Even when they’ve done well, some of the most successful entrepreneurs have kept a minimal lifestyle, driving their first cars or living in smaller apartments.
This isn’t to say that you can’t spend your hard earned cash or utilise your talent. But, you don’t have to rub other peoples noses in it or make them feel bad about themselves.
People will be much happier that, instead of making them feel inadequate, that you lift them, support them and help them to find a way for them to achieve their ambitions.