Children are taught a lot of bad habits and see bad examples all the time, such as greed, anger, judgement and so on. The biggest job we have as a parent is preparing our children for a life after they’ve left the nest. To do this, it’s essential that we teach the lessons that they won’t be taught elsewhere.
These include holding the right values, knowing what’s important, treating people with compassion and so much more. Sometimes it can feel like there’s not enough time to teach every lesson you wish. However, the best lesson you can ever teach is to lead by example.
The following things are 5 things that every child should be taught, but don’t get this kind of education from school.
Exams Don’t Dictate Your Intelligence
Exams really suit a small percentage of the population. People learn in different ways and the cramming, studying and learning all for a 2 hour exam at the end of the year leaves a lot to be desired.
In many places, a shift is being made towards continuous assessment. This is because it is a much better system in determining someones ability.
Children can feel really bad when they don’t perform will in assessments. They can feel like they’re being judged, looked down upon or even question their own intelligence.
It’s essential then to reinforce that the exam system is not a true indicator of intelligence. The effort that is put into something counts more than the results and with continuous effort, results will come but not necessarily in the ordinary way.
Many people find success by thinking outside of the box. By challenging ideals and looking at things in a way no one has before. These skills are much more important and the education system we have does little to promote this. Remember what Einstein said;
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
Failure Isn’t Bad
In fact it can often be a good thing. Failure teaches us valuable lessons, while success after success can leave us complacent. Failure is an integral part of life and one nobody avoids; unless they don’t do anything.
The focus on results that we have can leave children feeling paralysed with the thoughts of failure. It’s important to teach then that failure is a good thing, as long as you gave it your all. Nothing can be a success 100% of the time and often our failures propel us on to bigger and greater things.
A fear of failure can be a very dangerous things and leaves someone with a fixed mindset. In order to be happy and embrace the challenges life throws at us, it’s imperative that we become OK with failure, and adopt a growth mindset.
Titles and Labels Mean Very Little
They’re just words, actions are what counts. For example, many of us know of someone in an authority position that you have no idea how they got there. We also know someone that goes above and beyond, and should be further than they are now.
People know the difference between the two and they also know who to turn to when they need something. Labels and titles are all well and good but they do not tell the full measure of someone. We can spend an eye-watering amount on education in order to gain title after title. At the end of the day, it’s the people that DO that get further in life.
The people that hide behind titles solely are usually unhappy, but this title gives their egos a little boost. This is not true happiness and can be lost in an instant.
Money won’t buy happiness
Life is about collecting experiences, not things. How many years of peoples lives are lost working to pay off the things that they don’t need.
If you ask anyone who’s happy what they value the most, it will more than likely be the memories of loved ones, experiences while travelling or other for memories. These stick with us. Our gadgets are updated and outdated very quickly and there’s a panic to jump on to the next big thing. Why?
In a few months you’ll be back in the same position. You become a slave to things and you don’t live your life.
Happiness comes from within and the temporary high people get from making purchases is just that, temporary. It’s not even true happiness.
Look at how a child plays for example. How many times did they get a big expensive toy and happily played for hours with the box it came in?
Not being and acting like everyone else is the only way a person is going to make their mark on the world and be able to live their own lives.
In school, children can get given out to for acting differently or ridiculed by their classmates. It’s a tough situation but it’s important to reinforce to a child that being different is good. That it will set you apart and it’s all to easy to just be like everyone else.
The ones that embrace their own eccentricities, unique ways of doing things and ability to think outside the box, are the ones who will eventually go further.
Not only this, but by being completely comfortable with yourself, you can be truly happy. If you’re consciously aware of what everyone is thinking about you all of the time, you’re not going to be happy and you’re going to end up living someones else life, not yours.